I was in the video store earlier this week.
Just a normal video store, blockbuster I think it was… just browsing. At one point I decided to ask Miss video lady if she had any good erotic films. She came back to be with the original Deep Throat and 9 Songs. I went with the latter on her recommendation. I like Miss video lady, she is great.
I also found myself being an erotic mentor for a friend this week. Although it was rather frustrating, I tried to keep my cool whilst explaining the difference between hard core porn and erotica. Between REAL non-simulated and FAKE simulated sex. I think so many people, men especially, have this stubborn block in their heads and sexual egos that they can only watch and get off on cheesy porn, big, fake boobs and hard fucking. Or maybe they forget that other stuff exists and just don’t realize or leave room for the possibility that it could be way hotter, more interesting, stimulating and healthier to watch some good quality erotica that may require a bit more patience and attention when it comes to getting some juicy sex scenes but in the end is much more satisfying and rewarding. I just don’t get how fake sex can be a turn on. Why do people bother wasting their time watching two people having sex that are clearly not into it. I find this especially gross with lesbian porn, the girls are so obviously not into each other, they stand so far apart and have stupid looks on their face, showing no passion or intensity.
When I watch any kind of good erotica, if it gets me off great, but I’m not only watching it for my own sexual stimulation, but also as art. To engage physically, visually and emotionally. If I am turned on by something, as I definitely was while watching 9 Songs, I will continue to enjoy watching it after having an orgasm… or 3. I guess my feelings around this subject are kind of like the difference between a quick fuck and sex where love and passion are combined. Both are enjoyable but provide very different feelings when you wake up in the morning.
Back to 9 Songs. This is a beautiful movie. All the sex scenes- about 2/3 of the movie, are real, and it’s good stuff. They know how to have sex, they know how to kiss and most importantly she knows how to dance around the house naked. And there is even a believable story line too! Michael Winterbotom is a brave and talented director and I am very impressed. Sexy as. For those of you who haven’t seen this movie. I would highly recommend leaving your house and heading straight to the video store NOW.
The 9 Songs: * Black Rebel Motorcycle Club, “Whatever Happened to My Rock and Roll”
* The Von Bondies, “C’mon, C’mon””
* Elbow, “Fallen Angel”
* Primal Scream, “Movin’ On Up”
* Dandy Warhols, “You Were the Last High”
* Super Furry Animals, “Slow Life”
* Franz Ferdinand, “Jacqueline”
* Michael Nyman, “Debbie”
* Black Rebel Motorcycle Club, “Love Burns”
9 songs trailer: